• Sometimes, I’m glad I’m not American

    Yes, that’s quite an inflammatory title but let’s start at the beginning. I can’t remember if I’ve specifically mentioned it so far, but I’m British: I think of this as a big part of who I am and I’m immensely proud of it. I’m also in the fortunate place that through my social and professional circles I have a good number of international friends from around the globe and am not afraid to admit that there’s something about most “foreign” cultures that I’m jealous we don’t have in the UK. A few of those friends are American and I’ve visited that great land on several occasions for both Business and Pleasure and always had a wonderful time and made to be felt incredibly welcome.

    So why am I glad I’m not an American today? A few weeks ago I was linked to a blog entry by Mike Ramos. For those of you who don’t recognise the name (or are two lazy to google) Mr Ramos is currently the District Attorney for San Bernardino County and is trying to get himself elected as the new Attorney General for the state of California. It might seem off for a blog like mine to comment on a political individual in a far away land but his blog post astounded me so muchi had to write something if only to let of steam.

    Mike’s blog post is entitled “Barcodes and Human Trafficking” and focuses and a website called The Slave Register (TSR). TSR is a long established website run by Tanos to allow the ownership and possession subculture a place to register their “possessions”. The website gives each slave a unique number, certificate and barcode linking to their details. It’s a fantastic website and widely used in the community (including Little Whore). For reasons that I can not fathom Mr Ramos seems to have taken it upon himself to conduct a smeer campaign against TSR and if he had it his way would ban the site completely.

    In itself, that isn’t unusual, the bdsm community is used to bring downtrodden. However in this particular case the facts are so wrong you wonder how it even came about. Mr Ramos starts by stating that TSR website is for pimps and that the “slaves” are their prostitutes, he goes on to summarise the operation as follows:

    For example, when you input this particular registration number, among other things, it lists who the “slave” is “being trained by” and when the “slave” was “collared.” The term collared is reference to when the slave/victim paid her pimp for the first time.

    The article is full of similar inaccuracies and I highly recommend anyone reading this to go and read it and make a sensible non inflammatory comment at the bottom in the hope we can get Mr Ramos to change his views.

    What really concerns me about this however is that it’s not some” “random politician”. This is a man who is already a district attorney and who may become Attorney General for an entire state (one which includes San Francisco no less). A man whose entire professional and political career revolves around his ability to uncover the truth, and yet he can’t even research a simple article. If I lived in San Bernardino and had this gentlemen representing the state in a trial I stood certainly be wondering if he applied the same rigour to the courtroom as he does his blog!

    In short, I’m glad I’m not an American, not because of the whole American peoples but because of a few terrifying individuals trying to ruin the country for everyone else!


    The Slave Register
    Mike Ramos for Attorney General
    Collar (BDSM) on Wikipedia

  • eLust #66

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    Small Breasts
    Watching Her Cum
    An Ode to Blow Jobs

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    Of Skeletons and Secrets
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    Erotic Fiction

    Unbroken by Oleander Plume
    A Meal And A Show
    Fucking Snow
    Getting Off Is So Much Fun
    Wicked Wednesday – Merry Christmas
    Advent Calendar 24

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    Christmas Drinks At The Y
    Nothing But Mouth
    The things he does
    The First Submission
    Canadian Mist, Eggnog, Ginger Ale and You.
    A Peachy Night
    Skeletons In My Closet
    Humiliation of an ex-Nazi submissive 28
    a most pleasant fuck
    Sex on Meth

    Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

    Masturbation Fantasy’s Unintended Consequence
    All Health Care Costs Are Not Created Equal
    Keep Private Lives Private
    The Myth of Magnum

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    My Subby Not-Quite-Year
    He’s Got The Look
    On femininity and rebellion
    What Fifty Shades Doesn’t Tell You
    Humiliation: hotness and hard-limits
    Beginner’s Guide to Electro Sex – Essentials


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    7 Signs You’re An Erotica Writer
    Why Do I Do What I Do


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  • Munches, the Club and Beyond (Part 1)

    So, it’s been a while since I posted (just over a month in fact) and for that I give no apologies, but I will give a promise that I’ll try and do better in future! As part of this promise and in the spirit of Christmas and New Year I’m going to write a 3 part article on Social Fet, so here we go with part 1!

    At around the same time that I started writing this blog I joined the FetLife community. I’d heard about it before and created an account, but hadn’t really USED it. After scouring the internet for information on Top Guilt I found a couple of useful bits and bobs and decided maybe it was time to investigate further.

    For reasons none of us have been able to fathom, our local county is unlisted on FetLife (unlike most of the other Uk counties). This makes event organising somewhat more difficult but the everything @pussy has been a rallying point for the community and curates the local group and runs the flagship munch.

    Before hitting FetLife I had never even heard of a munch, so a small amount of googling was required when I hit the sticky post at the top of the group advertising “September 2014 Munch”.

    munch (derived from “burger munch”) is a casual social gathering for people involved in or interested in BDSMWikipedia

    I really want sure that I wanted to meet other people with an interest in BDSM, the very concept of meeting up with a load of judgemental kinky people absolutely terrified me; would they be judgemental, would we be kinky enough to be accepted, Would there be an age difference. I could go on and on but I think you get the point! Fortunately, as is the case with most munches, the munch host (Molly in this case) was more than happy to meet up with us in advance and try to assuage our doubts! Thinking back, I think going to meet our munch host was one of the most nerve racking things I’ve done in recent times, but we needn’t have worried. Molly and her partner Michael are some of the nicest people I’ve ever met, delightfully normal and just as happy talking about the traffic, the difficulties of running an adult blog, or the best BDSM events to attend (more on that later!). We left their company ready and full of anticipation about the upcoming munch!

    Due to some careful plan on my part we only had a few days to wait and so, on a dark September evening we find ourselves sitting in a car park nervously plucking up the courage to go inside. Finally we took the plunge and upon entering almost immediately ran into Molly. One of the best things about having met Molly and Michael in advance was that we felt like we knew someone, and that someone was very quick to introduce us to other new someones. Every conversation and couple was different, the world of BDSM is a varied one, and a munch is no different. Male Doms, Female Doms, occasionals, life stylers and everything in between, but all with one overriding feature: everyone was so friendly! Thoughts of not being accepted instantly went out the door and the next few hours flew by and far too quickly we found ourselves saying heartfelt goodbyes and looking forward to next month!

    One of our regular topics of conversation with our new find friends was (and still is) sharing experience of different events, what’s on in the area and is it worth going. Regularly the Fem Sub Social Club events were discussed and recommended, and finally we couldn’t withstand it any longer and decided to take the plunge. We ordered our tickets at the suggestion of our new friends and bravely set off for a new venue…

    But that is a story for next time!

  • The Slippery Slope

    Rated 18

    I was interested to learn that new legislation came into effect this week in Britain. This legislation (nicely described here) changes the way the Video on Demand services (actually classified as TV-like services) are regulated. Previously VoD services were regulated by an advisory list from the CPS (Crown Prosecution Service) on what would be classified as Illegal if broadcast. The new legislation changes all of that and now dictates that TV-Like services come under the regulatory powers of the BBFC (British Board of Film Certification), the most important part of this is that the BBFC already has an R18 classification which describes what can and can’t be shown in a film suitable for 18 year olds. There are plenty of blogs out there which give many reasons on why this in itself is a bad thing, and given they’ve spent a lot more time on it than I have this evening so I shall point you in their direction later. I want to look at something bigger.

    What’s worrying about this new legislation is not specifically it’s impact on the UK porn industry (although it will definitely have one) it’s the increasing trend that the government thinks it should control what we can and can’t do, what we can and can’t enjoy. Currently “two consenting adults” means you can get away with most things within the privacy of their own bedroom however there is an increasing focus on what that consent means worry that people are over stretching the given consent and people increasingly worrying about how to retrospectively prove that consent was had when confronted with a court of law.

    If we aren’t careful there is a real chance that we will see an increasing pressure to conform to society “norms”. It intrigues me that we live in one of the most liberal societies of recent times (the LGBT movement in particular is a great example of the successes on this front) and society as a whole is becoming more and more accepting of the kink community we find that it is our governments that seem unable to cope with the change. It is they who find the need to clamp down and introduce new laws to cover the revelations of the kink community and often with very little real understanding about how our world operates. This is a knee jerk reaction by a set of people suddenly finding themselves completely out of control.

    There are lots of groups out there who are advocating that we, the community, need to fight this change; that we need to campaign for our rights and I completely agree but we need to go further. We need to educate those who are afraid of us, those who don’t understand that enjoyment can be had in all forms and that although the law should keep us safe from others, it cannot do that at the expense of our enjoyment.

    Taking away the freedom for enjoyment is a very  slippery slope…

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